Former Facebook staffer Kate Losse’s piece on “Lean In”:
For someone with fewer family demands than Sandberg, freedom is depicted not as a pleasure but a problem to be resolved by getting a family. The single woman goes out to a bar goes not to have fun or be with friends (the main reason most women I know attend a bar), but to find a husband with whom to procreate. “My coworkers should understand that I need to go to a party tonight…because going to a party is the only way I might meet someone and start a family!” Astonishingly for a book published in 2013, there are no self-identified lesbians, gay men, or even intentionally unmarried or child-free people in Lean In’s vision of the workplace. It’s not clear why Sandberg thinks that everyone should be in the business of getting a family, since the book argues that family gets in the way of work. But it seems that Sandberg can only imagine the dreaded “leaning back” as a product of family demands. Who would take a vacation voluntarily?
Has definite Ellen Willis-like pleasure politics vibes.
Cute bangs, Mama! (18-year-old Ellen Willis on the College Quiz Bowl show, 1959)
“The emphasis on sex that currently permeates our public life attest not to our sexual freedom but to our continuing sexual frustration. People who are not hungry are not obsessed with food.”
—Ellen Willis, No More Nice Girls
*Quote recommended by Emily of Emily Books, a fantastic new indi(e) bookstore.
Ellen Willis is such a badass. I am so excited that I get to write about her.
Though everyone knows I’m a sucker for Paul Simon myself, she’s so good here I almost want to nod and agree.
“His alienation, like the word itself, is an old-fashioned, sentimental, West-Side-liberal bore.”
Nailed it. (Just wait for Graceland, Ellen; you’ll like that better.)